Social Emotional Resources

  • Below are some resources to help parents reduce conflict and enhance positive behaviors at home!

    If you decide to use these resources, it is incredibly important to heed the following information:

    Work on one card/concept at a time.  One to two weeks of learning time per one card/concept will help build structure and routine.  It takes roughly five weeks for children to become familiar with a new routine like this.  If we choose to bite off more than we can chew we will end up with too much conflict and not enough consistency.

    Once a reward is earned, that particular reward is never taken away (also, rewards do not need to be things…it could be….storytime with a parent, catch with a parent, extra screen time minutes, etc.  We will need to be creative given our current restraints on resources. Rewards for younger students should not be delayed for extended periods of time…i.e. the goal is for the child to connect the positive behavior to the reward, and the longer you draw the reward out the less the connection will be solidified, delayed gratification will come with time and practice).

    Parents should try very hard to tell their children what they want them to do rather than what they don’t want them to do. Seems simple, but much more difficult in practice.

  • PAX Breaks

    Pax Breaks encourage both parents and children to recognize their strong emotions when conflict arises, and instead of becoming punitive or oppositional, to take a 5-minute break with a coping strategy to calm down.  
    Some ideas are coloring, drinking cold water, hugging a toy or blanket, using a glitter jar, stress ball, putty, guided meditations. 

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  • Shared Vision

    Shared Vision helps reduce conflict with children by being upfront about expectations prior to doing a task.  Using the terms "MORE behaviors" and "LESS behaviors" (with emphasis on the MORE/POSITIVE/DESIRED behaviors), and revisit those expectations during and after the activity. 

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  • Mystery Motivator

    This activity encourages child motivation for completing tasks and positive behaviors.  Many children are not internally motivated to get things done; they need additional help or "reward".  Prizes do not need to be physical things, reading a book together, drawing together, a dance party, etc.

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  • Beat the Timer

    Beat the Timer is an activity for children who have trouble completing tasks on time.  This strategy is used to enhance focus and helps kiddos get things done without frustration.  START SMALL.  Give children small chunks to help build confidence and be successful.

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  • Kudos Cards

    Kudos Cards encourage praise of children's positive behavior.  Consistent use of positive praise teaches children to give and receive praise, gratitude, and healthy behaviors.

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